That elusive ‘feel’ with horses, so often spoken but rarely defined, is within your reach. It’s sometimes referred to as congruency, as though you are both part of a whole, mirror-imaged. It helps, of course, if you were born with it. Perhaps you were, and lost it somewhere on the way to adulthood.
Complete congruency with a horse is a beautiful combination of Love and Respect that will give you a lifetime of joy with your partner. The good news is that it’s obtainable! Whether you’re starting from the beginning or starting over with the same horse, a good Liberty Foundation will make any activity, or simply being with your equine partner, an adventure in ease and lightness.
I’d like to share a story that happened here at Spirit Horse Ranch Liberty Foundations, from Karen Corn, who had just about given up her dreams of horses but decided to give it one more try, because of the love she has for them. To illustrate, I thought a set of diagrams called Congruency Circles would help you see her progress, which she calls magical and miraculous.
Karen hadn’t ridden her horses in some time, and their contacts were becoming infrequent.
We started together in a Liberty Foundations Clinic, which ignited hope in both Karen and her horses. She went home with ‘homework’. The homework of doing nothing. Nothing except offering what may be the most important things in the world for horses. Freedom and Safety. And Karen and her horses started reconnecting. The first touch came from the horses, and the rest of the Foundations were added in the natural ways of horses, in circles and arcs of growing connection in the flow of deep goodness that surrounded them. The two separate circles slowly moved toward each other, overlapping now, as human and equine minds came together in congruency. They were starting to become alike, mirroring their desire to be together.
I visited Karen’s farm, and saw to my delight that the beautiful Chocolate Palomino mare Majesty, recently rescued and very fearful, had formed such a close connection with Karen that their movements on the ground were poetry. They were each other’s mirrors in grace and beauty.
Then yesterday I got a beautiful message from Karen. She had saddled Majesty and they had a lovely bitless ride for the first time since her rescue. Amazingly, but not unexpectedly, she had also saddled and had a lovely, willing ride with Indigo, her big Appaloosa gelding who had previously been labeled a ‘bad boy’. She practiced Liberty Foundations with him, too, leading him to decide that humans could be trusted and fun! Here’s a photo of Indy in his new way of training on a beautiful summer day with blue skies and green grass.
“I love Liberty Foundations training. I'm not sure I'd call what I do with my horses training...training for what?
My goals for time spent with them, is to be with them, do what they do, feel what they feel, leave man's world....and all that implies, and be in their world.
I was a student of natural horsemanship for almost 10 years, learned a lot, but got to the point that I wanted more and knew there had to be more.
Since Liberty Foundations, my relationship has deepened with my horses. I love spending time with them, instead of making excuses and avoiding.
I never could make a plan, much less follow it. I was loose-ended and empty when I went out.
Now I love my time, I feel the Lord smile and talk to me through them, natural is natural, my plan is their plan, my language is their language. I enter their world of being, not forcing them to be human. I crave my time with them. Liberty Foundations has changed my whole existence. I have try and desire in all areas of my life.
Ruella has been a Godsend to me with her constant support, gentle spirit and willingness to share of herself, to make the world better for horses....
My big gelding Indigo, formerly known as OhNo, has changed his name and his attitude toward being with humans. Previously forced to trailer load, etc. with a look in his eye I hate to remember, is now loading without hesitation, participating, and actually standing waiting, asking for his turn in the arena.
He is so drawn to Ruella and her way, he trots to her, this horse not known for moving his feet, and drops his head. His eye is gentle and receptive.
Majesty, abandoned and neglected, then pushed through stuff....is now with me. She was formerly remote, but now is a super star. Willing and trusting, dancing and flowing, giving her heart and soul.
The best is always yet to come... I have a future with my horses now, hope and passion.”
Watch for next week’s blog, with more stories of real-life people and horses at Spirit Horse Ranch, at Liberty on the Plains.
Learn more about Liberty Foundations at http://libertyfoundations.com; you may contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Small coaching groups are forming, as well as private coaching at Spirit Horse Ranch near Oklahoma City; if you’d like to learn, we’d love to welcome you.
My colleague Susan Smith teaches Liberty Foundations in Santa Fe, NM; she’d be happy to welcome you there, too. Her website is http://orthohorse.info.
Several Liberty Foundations Clinics are planned for 2014, and online classes and coaching will be available soon. May I add you to our waiting list?
Please enjoy this short video of Karen and Majesty celebrating the connection possible with Liberty Foundations training!
(c) Ruella Yates, 2013